21.01.13 - 10:54 p.m.

your advice at the time was heartless, terrible
and I told you as much, said that's really bad advice.

I might be able to take it, in part, now, having not, twice. I would hope (needlessly, futilely) that you'd never know, that one exchange in mind:
it's a dog's name.
it's your dog's name; I don't have a dog.
but the story might be worth contributing to your success.